Though we’re unsure if movements in celestial bodies can be completely blamed for the unprecedented level of breakups this summer, it’s clear that 2023 is a year of ‘the great dumping’.
Though quiet uncoupling is by no means a new trend, it feels like the recent splits we’ve seen have been unusually loud, taking over the front pages and saturating headlines at hypersonic speed.
And though heartbreak is indisputably rough and nothing to be flippant about, Emily Ratajkowski has come in clutch with some sage words of wisdom.
(In case you were in need of a refresher of her credentials, Ratajkowski split from her husband, Sebastian Bear-McClard, in 2022 after allegations of adultery and sexual misconduct.)
Taking to TikTok, the supermodel shared her thoughts on the plethora of divorce proceedings saturating the courts of both Hollywood and your local neighbourhoods.
“Personally, I find it chic to be divorced by the age of 30,” Ratajkowski mused.
personally i find it chic to be divorced by the age of 30
“So it seems like a lot of ladies are getting divorced before they turn 30,” the New York Times best-selling author and podcast host begun her video.
“As someone who got married at 26 and been separated for a little over a year, 32, I have to tell you I don’t think there’s anything better,” she continued.
“Being in your 20s is the trenches,” she added. “There is nothing better than being in your 30s (*having boundaries), still being hot, maybe having a little bit of your own money and figuring out what you want to do with your life.”
She continued that being divorced is “good” because it means that you’ve “tried that married fantasy” and “realised that maybe it’s not all its cracked up to be”.
“You’ve got your whole life still ahead of you!” she reminded us all in the video. “So for all those people feeling stressed about that or being divorced, it’s good. Congratulations.”
Despite contemporary society being a sex-positive one, it’s still marred by the stigma around divorce reflective of a “failure”.
In case you too needed a reminder, being divorced doesn’t mean you haven’t succeeded in your relationship or that you’re less than for leaving your marriage.
It means you’ve prioritised yourself and realised you deserve more than these idealised partnerships. And with almost 50 percent of marriages ending in divorce (over 56,000 divorces were granted in Australia in 2021), you’re most certainly in good company.